Most couples argue — it’s part of being human. But what if every argument ends with the person you love threatening to leave? That’s the heartbreaking reality for one husband who turned to Reddit in search of clarity, and maybe… some hope.
She Says She’s Leaving — Every Single Time
In a raw and emotional post on Reddit’s AITAH forum, a man shared that his wife threatens to walk out on their marriage nearly every week.
“She tells me she’s done with me… that she can’t do this anymore,” he wrote.
He admits they argue — usually over misunderstandings, tension, or frustration. But what cuts deepest is the fact that, instead of working through issues, her default reaction is to say she’s leaving. Not just in the heat of the moment, but as a recurring pattern.
He’s Trying — But It’s Never Enough
The husband says he’s made changes. He’s learned to stay calmer during conflicts. He’s gone to therapy. He even takes accountability when he messes up.
But none of it seems to matter. Even when he communicates gently, she still says things like “You’ve broken me” or “I’m done.” The emotional weight is crushing — not knowing if this is the end… or just another threat.
He Wonders: Is This Love or Emotional Manipulation?
What makes this even more painful is the confusion. Are these outbursts just a cry for help? Or something darker — a form of emotional control?
The Reddit post reveals a man walking on eggshells in his own home, always afraid the next disagreement will be “the last straw.”
He’s not angry — just exhausted, hurt, and unsure whether love should feel like this.
Reddit Responds: You’re Not the Problem
Thousands of users chimed in with support. Many pointed out that threatening to leave repeatedly is not just unhealthy — it’s emotionally abusive.
One top comment summed it up:
“This isn’t communication. It’s punishment. No one deserves to live in fear of being abandoned over every argument.”
Others urged him to seek couples therapy — but also reminded him that he deserves peace, not emotional
What Happens Now?
For this man, the future is uncertain. He still wants to fight for the marriage — but he’s beginning to realize that love should never come with constant threats of walking away.
And maybe, just maybe, being alone is less lonely than being with someone who keeps saying goodbye.
chaos.
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Original story from Reddit – AITAH